This is, in part, an email that I sent to Julia’s Computer Art teacher. She wrote yesterday asking for some guidance on how to work with Julia who has been unskillfully flirting with a few boys in her class, reacting to the boys’ awkward reactions with anger and swearing, and also swearing generally when she is unsatisfied with her work. The work is learning Adobe Illustrator and learning it according to a teacher’s instructions.
My immediate answer to her query about Julia’s behavior was that I was seeing these behaviors more frequently.
“Julia is showing interest in boys without the social skills or filters to appropriately flirt. She is also indulging in swearing and anger. Some of that behavior is her testing limits in new surroundings and with new teachers, and some is because there are a number of very disruptive kids in her math class and she is copying behavior. However, Julia can control both the inappropriate flirting and the swearing and anger. She needs a very firm hand and needs to know, in no uncertain terms, that the behavior will not be allowed in the classroom. You might say something about how everyone needs to feel safe to learn and create art. Julia needs to know that if she does not behave, you will ask her to leave the classroom until she can behave. She likes the class. She is showing me what she is learning almost every day. She will not want to leave.” Continue reading